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LETTING GO OF YOUR RESISTANCE AND FEARS TO MAKE EVEN MORE POWERFUL AND CONSISTENT CHANGES!

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Letting go of your resistance and fears to make even more powerful and consistent changes..

Resistance can be a lot of things.. but basically it is your resistance to or fear of making certain changes in your life. Dealing with this resistance and these fears help you to cement your changes and make them stronger.

You could be making changes, everything is going smoothly, and then it comes up.. all these emotions trying to stop you. Like certain fears, insecurities, excuses and especially doubt about the process and it makes you want to stop.

BUT..

These times are among the most transformational, because resistance in fact proves it is working, if you just stayed totally where you were and weren’t working on letting go of what is holding you back in your subconscious, nothing would be stirred up because you would be doing nothing!

So when you are making changes, letting go of a lot of stuff, some discomfort is natural and realize that on the other side of this is something much better.. consistently for me at my times of the most resistance coming up, when I get through it.. I find these my most powerful breakthroughs.

So we now know resistance is a sign of something positive shifting, but how to we deal with it?

Basically we use everything that is coming up as a way to strengthen our resolve and the changes we are making. Because the more stuff that is coming up, the more we have to work on.. the more we have to let go of.. and the more healing we will have in the end.

The powerful tool I use to deal with this is Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or tapping. To learn the basics, read my article and watch my videos here.

http://youremotionalfreedom.com/?page_id=33

Now what you want to do is think of a change you want to make. I will use a recent success of mine as an example. I wanted to change my sleeping times from getting up at 3pm due to habit after working a night job, to 8am, which I have successfully achieved now!

Focus on that change/habit/whatever and notice the emotions in your body, fears, thoughts, doubts, any past memories around it. And I want you to tap on everything that comes up.. until you get it down to zero.

When you have it to zero. Then it’s time to tap in the positive.

So for my example, getting up at 8am. I visualized myself getting out of bed, and big red text saying “8:00am” in the picture and I brought in positive feelings, feelings of passion, excitement, looking forward to the day, feeling good and I started tapping while imagining this, making the feelings stronger.. and tapped in affirmations “I want to get up at 8am everyday, I choose to get up at 8am every day, I allow myself to get up at 8am every day”. And do this enough that it is strong and compelling for you.

I did this and the very next day I got up at 8am!

But then in the following days a lot of stuff come up trying to stop me from keeping this up. All kinds of fears such as it would effect relationships with my friends who I usually see at night, fear that I can’t keep it up and several other things. And as more of that come up, I would spent time tapping on it and then putting back in the positive feeling and visualizing myself getting up at 8am.

And I’ve been doing it consistently. I don’t need to set an alarm, my subconscious is programmed for this and I naturally wake up around this time.. allowing myself to wake up and giving myself this freedom to do it naturally is powerful too, if I set my alarm that would have made things harder due to so much negativity most of us have around alarms. And it feels better to just wake up naturally. I may wake up at 7:50 or 8:10, it doesn’t matter, I can lay there a few minutes and breathe, and I also lay in bed and tap/do EFT on the feelings coming up of “I don’t want to do this” or whatever, I then look out the window into the light to wake up more and get up comfortably.

Visualization and affirmations are a powerful technique, and combined with EFT are even more powerful, you will start to naturally go towards these things as you clear out and let go of the negativity first and then put the positive stuff in instead of just stacking it on top!

Give it a go, try it on a habit or a change you want to make.. and notice the difference in how much easier you are able to do it! And if you want to explore deeper stuff, make deeper changes, I am offering coaching in EFT at the moment and would love to coach you, so just go to my site and email me on the contact page and we can organize your first session!

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-Ben

www.youremotionalfreedom.com

04May

WHAT DO I STAND FOR!!!

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Hi everyone,

I have taken on a challenge by Margaret M. Lynch who is a well known EFT guru by making a video and putting myself out there, talking about what i’ve been battling and what I now stand for.
I’ve acknowledged alot of this about myself, but it scares me putting it out here on the internet, which is what made just making the video so valuable, I felt very calm after it.

“What I stand for”..

https://vimeo.com/41542154

Have a watch and let me know your comments! And please feel free to share it!

Interested in coaching?

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03May

AWARENESS.. (Self Defense Related)

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(This article is from an earlier project of mine.. some of you may be interested.)

I’ve heard stories of experienced martial artists who have been training for years, but when it is for real… fail miserably.

Why? There is several reasons, the most important ones aren’t even physical. Today I will cover one of them…

AWARENESS..

This goes deeper than you think, and I believe it goes even deeper than alot of reality based training covers.You could have been training martial arts for years, have awesome technique, Bruce Lee like speed, Hulk strength.. whatever you dream you could have, and get hurt because you don’t even see it coming.. the ultimate form of defense is not even getting in the situation in the first place..

So you begin to wonder where do I start with awareness?

I will start at the surface level.. there is 2 main levels of this…

1. Awareness of your environment and people in the environment-

You have to be aware of your environment. Look around where you are, where are the exits? Where could the danger potentially come from? What are the people doing? What state are the people in? (happy, sad, angry, aggressive).

Does your intuition make you aware of anything? If so TRUST IT!.

If certain people stand out, such as people who seem angry or aggressive, it’s logical that’s where the potential problem may come from. That doesn’t mean you have to stop and stare at them, as that may cause more trouble. Just be aware of it.

Is somebody standing too close to you and seeming suspisious? Then move.

Is somebody giving you the evil eye? How many friends do they have? Could they have weapons? (The only 2 safe assumptions, they have friends and/or weapons.)

Why is this all important?

If you don’t see it coming.. you can’t do anything about it! If you can stop it early then it’s much better for you. It’s better to avoid it early than having to deal with it when it’s in your face.

And it will avoid you getting sucker punched, if your aware it can’t happen. Though don’t think you are impervious to it.. but it will minimize the chance alot.

“But Ben, can’t I just let go of all this stuff and not attract anything ever magically?”…

That will help alot, and that’s mostly what this is about, but you still have to build certain skills such as awareness. It will serve you in every day life.. such as does the cute girl your looking at have a boyfriend or is she there by herself?. It’s not just for avoiding trouble..

2. Awareness of YOURSELF..

Being aware of yourself, your beliefs, your patterns, your emotions and how you may react in a situation.

Being aware of your beliefs, emotions and patterns is a VERY important step, because that is when you can start to let it go and make different choices. The more aware you are of this, the more good work you can do… and eventually the calmer and more relaxed life you can live.. if your not holding all the anger, negative beliefs, past negative experiences and memories, you just won’t attract most of it anymore..

Know your strengths and weaknesses to choose your strategy also, but that is a more advanced subject.

Anyway, we will work on both of these. We will look into your limiting emotions, beliefs and patterns and work on letting them go so as to make you more calm, relaxed, confident..

And I will teach you some simple ways to build awareness. I have used these myself and it has saved me MANY times, if I didn’t see it coming I wouldn’t have been able to do anything to avoid it.

AWARENESS is important!

Ready to live a calmer and more relaxed life? To let go of the things that could potentially attract trouble or violence to you?

At the moment I am offering Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) coaching sessions, $197 for the session to see the results you can get from EFT! Simply click the paypal button to send your payment and then use the contact form to email me. Please include where you are from and if possible your timezone and the best times you can do the session and I will organize it.

Click ‘buy now’ to send payment of $197 for your first 80 minute session!

Book 5 sessions of 80 minutes for even more transformation for $947

(This coaching requires commitment and to
encourage that commitment, all my coaching is
non refundable. And I have a 48 hour cancellation policy if you can’t make a session,
you must let me know 48 hours before or you will lose that session.)

(Pre-payment is required before doing a session!)

-Ben

17Apr

POWERFULLY TUNE INTO AND LEARN TO TRUST YOUR INTUITION!

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So intuition is talked about a lot, we are told to follow it at times, other times we are told not to follow it and instead believe something blindly as a method to control you.. but that is a whole other subject.

As much as we are told to follow our intuition and as good as it sounds, how do we really tune into this?

Well first we need to realize all the things we are holding onto inside that is stopping our intuition from really being strong and shining through. All the fears, negative emotions, limiting patterns and programming we are holding onto inside make us think too much, overalalyze and even when we do get intuition coming through in that case we tend to ignore it because of the fears, doubts and insecurities we are holding onto.

And if this is strong enough those fears, doubts and insecurities will overwhelm your intuition, not make you trust it and make you question the things that come up, like ‘that won’t work’ and other limiting thoughts.

What if you could use Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) to let these limiting thoughts, emotions, fears, doubts and insecurities go?

The great thing is that there isn’t a special, separate process for this, because the more you release and let go around any area, the more your intuition will come through and the more you will trust it. The more you let go of your fears and insecurities, you will overthink things less (overthinking is a sure way not to get stuff done!) and you will find these intutions and inspirations starting to come up directing you to do certain things, or go certain places.

And you know what.. I’ve discovered myself that following these actions is where the results have happened for me, instead of trying to do it by brute force and having all these emotions come up while your doing it, if you let go of all this programming then you will feel those feelings much less and more naturally find the right actions.. the most effective actions.

Another thing is you may need to tap on specific fears around intuition to trust it more, and if you do that, it will go into all areas of your life, improving everything. So what I want you to do is think of a certain goal.

Write it like this “I allow myself to easily and effortlessly…”

e.g “I allow myself to easily and effortlessly apply EFT to improve my life and to find all the ways of doing so” (Your already half way there reading this article!) And write down everything that comes up around that. For example – “this isn’t going to work, why bother, I’m too lazy, it’s too hard to apply this, I’m scared I won’t have this problem anymore and won’t know what to do instead.”

Write as much as possible, and go back to the introduction to EFT article if you haven’t yet learnt the tapping points.

http://youremotionalfreedom.com/?page_id=33

Then take each thing you have written, and tap through the EFT points alternating through your list. Let’s say each line here is something you would tap on, moving between the points.

(top of the head) “this isn’t going to work”

(inside the eye) “why bother”

(side of the eye) “I’m too lazy”

(under the eye) “it’s too hard to apply this”

And keep going through all the points, when you get to the end, start again from the top of the head, until you have gone through your whole list.

And then think about your ‘problem’ again and realize it feels different, you have definitely let go of something doing this! And notice in the next few days how you start to notice little things pointing you in a new direction, intuitions, things you see, people you run into.. it’s all related.

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non refundable. And I have a 48 hour cancellation policy if you can’t make a session,
you must let me know 48 hours before or you will lose that session.)

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-Ben

www.youremotionalfreedom.com

05Apr

USING YOUR ‘TRIGGERS’ AND WHAT COMES UP IN EVERYDAY LIFE TO ACCELERATE YOUR HEALING AND FREEDOM.

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So you go throughout your life, things happen that are negative, trigger your emotions, cause you to repeat patterns that aren’t serving you more and just make you feel bad.. but how can you transform these occurrences to allow them to accelerate your own healing and evolution in life?

There is one mindset, a new way of looking at things that when I started looking at occurences and interactions with people as a way to explore what was on the inside that needed healing, I realized that I started to be less effected by these happenings.

Sure the emotions still come up, anger, sadness, frustration, whatever else.. and sure they make you want to strike out when you are ‘triggered’ in that moment. But realize that you can use these as a way to transform and heal what is on the inside.

Ask yourself “what is it that I’m holding onto that could be causing this to happen?” or “what is this triggering inside me that I can let go of to further my own healing?”.

A lot of the things we attract to us in life is due to what we are holding onto, the patterns we have learnt through our life, especially in our early childhood. And as hard as it may be to admit, these things we ‘learnt’ years ago may not be serving us anymore and can be let go of. Afterall it isn’t the event or that person, it is your perception of the event or that person, and your insecurities, fears, anger or whatever else is making you think the situation is worse than it really is.

For example last week I started working around bullying back at school. I ended up going to do something else so didn’t quite complete it. And the next day deeper stuff was coming up around this, everything seemed to be triggering me, stuff people were saying made me feeling like I was being bullied or picked on. And I realized “wow, this isn’t them, it is just my perception of this and it is this deeper stuff coming up making me interpret what they are saying or doing as this” and when I went home I found a very intense memory around this, tapped it down to zero and turned it around to something more positive. And with the intensity of the memory, it was definitely a valuable healing. I really didn’t want to face this memory and tap on it, but the memories and the things inside you that you resist most are exactly the same things you will benefit from the most from using EFT with them.

As soon as you look at the things that trigger you in everyday life, experiences, what people say or do, what happens in your day and use it as something to tap on and let go.. you will start healing more effectively and find more stuff to work on.. and the more you work on it.. the more you let it go.. the more you will heal and be happier and feel much better! Keep in mind this doesn’t mean that at times you won’t need to stand up for yourself, sometimes you do, but after doing this for a while you will learn when you are being triggered and when it is important to stand up for yourself.

Try it and let me know how you go!

At the moment I am offering EFT coaching sessions, $197 for the session to see the results you can get from EFT! Simply click the paypal button to send your payment and then use the contact form to email me. Please include where you are from and if possible your timezone and the best times you can do the session and I will organize it.

Click ‘buy now’ to send payment of $197 for your first session!

Book 5 sessions for even more transformation for $947

(This coaching requires commitment and to
encourage that commitment, all my coaching is
non refundable. And I have a 48 hour cancellation policy if you can’t make a session,
you must let me know 48 hours before or you will lose that session.)

(Pre-payment is required before doing a session!)

Either way, taking on this new mindset and way of looking at what happens to you in everyday life, will definitely benefit you!

-Ben

www.youremotionalfreedom.com

01Apr

LETTING GO OF FOOD CRAVINGS..

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So at the moment I am working on losing weight. Which includes alot of exploring past memories and experiences, letting them go and changing them around to something better.. more positive. And tapping on resistance to doing certain things such as exercise which is working well.

Working on memories is more advanced and is a hard thing to teach with text or video. But today I have a very cool and interesting application of EFT.. letting go of food cravings.

The power here is that if you actually just let go of these cravings.. you won’t have to fight as much, you won’t have to use strong willpower which fails in the end if all your emotions and subconscious programming is going against you. If you let go of craving these foods.. then you naturally won’t eat them anymore, sounds awesome doesn’t it!

One very interesting thing that has happened to me during my own process is something that is very amazing to me! I haven’t eaten vegetables since I was a kid.. I was always forced to eat them, made to feel guilty about it and there was ALOT of emotions around that. And I started working on these memories and other stuff and all of a sudden I had an urge to try them again, which is unheard of for me! I actually HATED them.. really hated them!

And I actually thought “hmm.. these aren’t too bad now”. And since then they have only started to taste better and I am eating them pretty regularly. That is an amazing transformation for me! I never would have thought it was possible a few years ago! And for me to go from that to eating vegetables regularly and enjoying them is awesome!

Last night I was out at a mexican restaurant and got some tacos, usually i’d get nothing but the beef in them, but I got the lettuce and enjoyed it, it may not seem like much to you.. but going from somebody who never ate that stuff, and actually downright HATED it, that is a MASSIVE shift!

The more advanced applications of exploring memories and related stuff is best left to coaching. But I want to give you something you can use today.. so I have made a video on letting go of food cravings..

So grab some foods that you no longer want to eat.. and replace my food with yours in the tapping sequence when you are repeating after me and tapping the same points.. and prepare to be amazed at the difference!

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you must let me know 48 hours before or you will lose that session.)

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-Ben

01Apr

How to improve your emotional freedom and let go of what’s holding you back using emotional freedom technique…

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Hi everyone.. I’m Ben, I’m certified in EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) Level 1 and have a lot of experience applying it in different ways and variations of it. And I’d like to give you some tips to have more freedom and to help you let go of what is holding you back.

The first thing for me to do, is give you an introduction to EFT since that is an effective method of achieving this. EFT is based on certain meridian points that are used in ancient chinese acupuncture and it was discovered that by tapping on these points gently, that we are able to balance our energy system and let go of negative emotions, past memories, fears, insecurities, doubts and the things that are holding us back by focusing on certain aspects of our problem and tapping on these points.

I agree it may sound strange, it did to me at first.. but that is exactly why I’ve found it so powerful, because it is so different from anything else I tried. The issue isn’t that it seems strange.. the real issue here is that it is very effective in letting go of your problems and limitations.

So now you have learnt the basic points. These points again are. Start on the karate chop to set up your focus. Then top of the head, top of the eye, side of the eye, under the eye, under the nose, under the mouth, around the solar plexus, under the arm, outside of the thumb, outside of each finger and lastly the wrist.

As a rule of thumb when you are starting, we are tapping each of those points around 7 times while focusing on the problem. It doesn’t have to be exact, it’s just a good thing to keep in mind when you are first learning EFT.

So what I want you to do now, is open a word/text document, or get a piece of paper and a pen so that you can work on one of your issues. And now write a simple issue you want to work on up the top of the paper/document (make it something basic for now instead of your biggest issue). And focus on, tune into that issue now. And measure the intensity of it out of 10.

And now we have our focus and also a way to measure the improvements and results. You will notice that tapping on your issue you will get a lower score out of 10 after a few rounds, sometimes only after 1 round of EFT/tapping.

As an example I am going to focus on a common fear as an example and I also encourage you to tap along with my video several times first and then when you focus on your chosen problem it will be even more powerful.

What we will first work on is – “Fear that EFT won’t work for me”.

And measure it out of 10 – 7/10 for example.

Now we will do a couple of rounds of tapping on this.

As you do more of this tapping, you will notice how much more free and light you feel. And you may be wondering what other things can I use EFT on?

You can use it on nearly anything..

*Emotions, anger, fear, anxiety, nervousness, confusion, frustration.

*Limiting thoughts, such as “I can’t do this” “this isn’t possible for me” “nothing works for me” “I can’t get ahead in my life” and whatever else you are thinking that is holding you back.

*Belief systems, such as “I’m not good enough” “I can’t achieve anything” “I’m lazy” “I can’t be bothered” and anything else that you are holding onto”.

*Past negative memories, such as things that happened in your childhood that is still effecting you, past rejections, things you can’t seem to stop thinking about and other memories that are holding you back in your life in the present. Try tapping around the points while just describing the memory and what comes up around it. Working on memories is a more advanced application and it is recommended you get coaching sessions from a qualified EFT coach to learn how to do this and learn how much better you will feel when you let go of these past memories.

My way of applying EFT is much more advanced and effective than the basic way and you can’t really learn it from reading an article and atleast for a while, the EFT basics I have taught you can apply to many situations. I will ask you different things about your problem and we will tap on it together, I intuitively know where to go and we will work on letting it go and replacing it with something more positive.

When you get a good grasp of the EFT points we can also use a powerful technique based on EFT called Matrix Reimprinting to let go of your past negative memories and replace them with something more positive, that aswell is something that can’t be learnt on paper, but can easily be done in a coaching session.

The more tapping you do, the more results you will get, the more excited you will get about new results and realize that you can get even more powerful and deep results from working with a qualified coach.

I would love to work with you in this area, so when you are ready contact me and we can explore what you are looking to achieve, tap on it a little bit and then see where we can go from there and what options we have. A microphone will be required, and a webcam will help so I can see you are tapping on the points correctly, atleast at the start. You can still see my webcam if needed and follow along on the points when I tap them.

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you must let me know 48 hours before or you will lose that session.)

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-Ben

www.youremotionalfreedom.com

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